Category: Social Skills
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Not Good is Better Than Bad? Most of the Time
The way you say things matters. To make sure the feedback you are giving someone is heard, you need to avoid triggering the ego. Try not to say things in such a way that would make them defensive. Why? Because you not only want them to hear what you had to say but do something…
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When to Cause Pain
“A person’s success in life can be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” – Tim Ferris 🪄Keystones: Hesitations about causing others pain can be broken down into two pathways: is this amount of pain justified and did I do it in the right way. In other words,…
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The Genuine-Effort Scale
🪄Keystones: Through this article I want you to become aware of what happens to your self-perceived genuineness or authenticity as you develop social skills so that you can endure the uncanny valley of behavior change. Then, I’ll suggest some things that can limit your growth and that of those you influence. “Well I Just…
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How to Give A Terrible Compliment
A creepy comment makes the other person uncomfortable because of where or what it draws attention to and what it implies. Or because they find you especially unattractive and don’t want your attention. A comment of kiss-uppery is all about the other person and may have other ulterior motives A genuine, non-creepy compliment is specific…
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How to Ask More Interesting Questions
Ask questions that are guesses. Learn to banter and improvise. Level 1-3 of questions: data collection, questions and banter as guesses, questions that bring out their emotions.